I was sitting here working on a few different things wondering what exactly it was giving me energy for the morning. I haven’t slept well in a while because our little one seems intent upon getting some body part or another stuck in my ribs just as I am starting to fall asleep. My coffee hadn’t had time to kick in, and even when it does, it rarely gives me an energy boost. It’s been kind of a frustrating morning in a lot of ways and I’ve been mulling something over that is probably just me overanalyzing life. But somehow there was energy.
After taking inventory of what was going on and what I had to get done, I realized something: It was quiet.
Sometimes the most energizing thing we can give ourselves is a quiet moment. Even the most extroverted person I know now and then takes a minute or two to just breathe. And the thing we need to understand about this is that it doesn’t have to be a huge time commitment where we get away and do nothing for a while. I was still doing stuff; my mind was active as was my body. But there was restoration in the silence.
After a few moments of this, I turned on music and sat down to start writing this post. It’s no longer quiet, but the lingering energy of that moment is allowing me to focus. I haven’t even gotten my to do list written out yet today, but I am getting things done.
Too often in our time driven, busy culture, we consider quiet moments as impossible. We fill our hours with background noise and get edgy when it isn’t there. We beat ourselves up because we just don’t have time for silence.
There is much to be said for taking quality time apart from everyone and everything else to refresh ourselves. But mommas with little ones even with the most supportive and helpful of husbands are not able to take that kind of time often. Few of us, honestly, have the ability to break away as often as we would like or as often as we tell ourselves we should. And harassing ourselves to do so only causes more stress, negating the benefits of that respite.
I have friends who will lock themselves in the bathroom for five minutes to get away from the noise of life. The deep breath they get to take in that moment is restoration enough to keep them going. Is it as beneficial as a day away? Actually… it might be. Remember, the stress of forcing time away can be just as harmful as the busy chaos.
It would be nice if every one of us could just get away on a mountain retreat with no cell service, actually relax while there, and come back so refreshed and restored that we feel ready to conquer the world. And where possible, I do think we should be helping each other make getting away possible. But there are times in everyone’s life where it just isn’t feasible and the effort to do so just wears us down more. So we need to take advantage of those moments we can.
Take a deep breath. You’re not doing it perfectly, whatever it is. You’re going to have some moments that are better than others. You might have to hide in a closet with a pillow over your ears to get your quiet moment. But do it. Take that moment. Make it purposeful; whisper a prayer of thanks for something (even just the ability to breathe). You may not come out of it feeling like you could run a marathon, but you will have the energy for the next moment. And sometimes that’s all you need.